Eating Disorders and Valentine’s Day Sadness

Eating Disorders and Valentine’s Day Sadness

February 14th is St. Valentine’s Day – which has been celebrated as a day of romance for many years. Approximately 150 million Valentine’s Day cards are exchanged annually, making this the second most popular card-sending day after Christmas (Source: History.com). And then there are all the flowers, jewelry and other gifts – and of course, chocolates in a heart-shaped box. If you are currently in a relationship with a “significant other,” then this time of year may be very special to you. However, if you have recently gone through a breakup – or, if you have been single for a while – then you might think of St. Valentine’s Day as “St. Sadness Day.” If your eating disorder (ED) seems like the only relationship you have, and you’re tempted to binge on those chocolates (or engage in other ED behaviors) – consider these strategies instead: Name Your Feelings: You may notice a sense of discomfort, or an awareness of low energy levels – see if you can get more specific, and identify the actual feelings you are experiencing. Sadness? Loneliness? Grief? Depression? Explore WHY You Have These Feelings: Perhaps you feel sad because you know that no one is going to buy you a romantic card or give you flowers. You might feel lonely, because you realize that you don’t have anyone to spend this “special day” with. Maybe you are thinking about previous years, when you were in a relationship – and you are grieving the loss of this relationship. You might even feel depressed, because you wonder if you will ever find that “special someone” to share your life with. Although these...
Love Your Self: Be Your Own Valentine

Love Your Self: Be Your Own Valentine

Love Your Self – it’s the first principle of Eating Disorder Intuitive Therapy (EDIT)™, and it’s the starting point for the journey of complete recovery from eating disorders. What does it really mean to Love Your Self – your whole Self – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually? On this Valentines Day, try these self love tips and be your own valentine! Love Your Body: Pause to notice the “lens” through which you currently view your body. Is it the lens of societies’ standards, through which you only see your body’s flaws? Or, is it the lens of compassion, through which you may still see your so-called flaws, but without any judgment, simply noticing them and appreciating them as a part of your True Beauty. Love Your Mind: Take a moment to gently notice the thoughts which float in and out of your mind. Notice if you are having any Eating Disorder (ED) thoughts, such as, “That love your body thing in the paragraph I just read is a bunch of crap. I’ll love my body when I’m thin enough. So how do I lose this weight?” Next, see if you can “rise above” your ED thoughts, to simply observe your mind from the perspective of your Intuitive Therapist (IT). This is a curious and compassionate part of your mind, which you can access with questions like these: “What are these ED thoughts really about? What is my quest for weight loss really about? What if it really is possible to Love My Self, regardless of my weight?” Love Your Heart: Bring your awareness to any emotions you are currently experiencing – is this easy or difficult for you...