Eating Disorders and Intimacy

Eating Disorders and Intimacy

Eating Disorders and Intimacy: Curing an Eating Disorder As a therapist, I often hear about the shame and secrecy surrounding eating disorders. Usually clients experience this pain behind locked doors, in their bedrooms and bathrooms, separate from the rest of the world. There is a fear that many clients have of feeling utterly alone whilst simultaneously thinking that no one could possibly love them if they were “found out.” Isolation feeds eating disorders. Connection feeds recovery. This begins by allowing eating disorders and intimacy to go hand-in-hand, and through this process the “cure” will naturally unfold. In my client work, I have seen two primary barriers to intimacy, which can block us from our inherent desire to connect. This causes us to feel alone, separate, and desperate. Here are some ideas to overcome these barriers to eating disorders and intimacy: Intimacy Requires Being Vulnerable: In order to feel connected to others, we have to reveal truths about ourselves, even the ones we don’t like to share. If I only share the positive aspects of myself with someone, then I am robbing them of actually knowing me. We are made up of good and bad, light and dark, and everything in between. How can we truly feel loved if we only share certain parts of ourselves? Many clients think that there is no possible way they will be loved or accepted if they share their deepest, darkest secrets. Although I think everyone has the right to keep things secret or decide when and where they want to reveal more about themselves, I also believe that true love and acceptance comes from an appreciation or understanding of...
Positive Pathways Celebrates 20 Years

Positive Pathways Celebrates 20 Years

My Story: A Business with Roots in Recovery It all began in January 1995, when I started my business. Or, perhaps it all began in 1975, when I started my first diet – shortly after my 10th birthday. By age 11, I was Anorexic. Although I restored weight, I never received treatment – and I struggled with body image issues, binge eating, and chronic dieting throughout Middle School and High School. In College, in had my first binge-and-purge episode, and by Graduate School, I was voraciously Bulimic. This was my “call” to seek treatment – and I’m very grateful to my therapist, Shelley, and all the friends I made in recovery. By the time I finished my PhD in Biomedical Engineering, my eating disorder behaviors were gone, and in their place was a key message which guided my recovery. My Message: The Five Principles of Eating Disorder Intuitive Therapy (EDIT)™ There are five parts to my message, which helped me overcome eating disorders, and which help me stay on a healthy path today – Love Your Self, Be True To Your Self, Express Your Self, Give To Your Self, Believe In Your Self. I didn’t read these in a book. I didn’t hear these from my therapist. I didn’t just make these up. This key message was shared with me through my companion animals – a parakeet, a kitten, and a cat. I truly believe this was my Intuition guiding me, through my observations of these animals. At first, I thought this message was just for me. But then I heard another “call” – to share this message with others in recovery from eating disorders....
Food Addiction vs. Binge Eating Disorder

Food Addiction vs. Binge Eating Disorder

Does it seem like you can’t stop eating once you start? Are especially unable to control your intake of sugar? Have you ever wondered if you are addicted to food? Food is NOT a drug! It’s physiologically impossible to be addicted to food, in the same sense that an individual can be addicted to alcohol, cocaine, heroin or other drugs. Drug addiction is a progressive disease of the brain, where an individual develops chemical dependency with chronic drug use over a period of time. Once drug addiction develops, an addict “needs” that drug to prevent painful and sometimes life-threatening withdrawal symptoms. However, with proper abstinence-based treatment, the addict in recovery can function without drug use of any kind. We don’t need drugs to live. But we need food to live. Sugar is NOT a drug! It is a carbohydrate which our bodies use for energy and brain function. Table sugar — or sucrose — is a simple carbohydrate, like lactose (the natural sugar in milk), or fructose (the natural sugar in fruit). Whether fructose or lactose or sucrose, once in our bodies, all simple sugars are broken down into the simplest — glucose. If you have ever had your “blood sugar” measured, it’s actually the level of glucose in your blood which is being assessed. It’s very normal and necessary to have sugar in our blood, brains and bodies! So if we’re not really addicted to food, and specifically sugar — then what the heck is going on when it feels so impossible to stop binge eating, especially foods which contain sugar? Just like an alcoholic is told, “One drink is too many,...

EDIT Principle #5: Believe In Your Self

A Day in the Life of Complete Recovery from Eating Disorders! As part of your eating disorder recovery, you have learned very much about yourself, your feelings and your true needs.  You have gradually let go of binge eating, purging, restrictive eating, and any other eating disordered behavior.  You find yourself at peace with food, able to eat intuitively while trusting your body to be a healthy weight.  You have discovered positive ways of  dealing with any challenges you encounter.  You remember all of the significant people and situations, serving as guides on your path of freedom.  You have created anchors, which symbolize what recovery means to you.  You have a range of emotions as you reflect upon your eating disordered past, and experience its ending.  You witness the sunrise, with the eyes of your soul, and you welcome your new beginning.  This day and every day, you are free! At Positive Pathways, we believe that complete recovery from eating disorders is possible — and your journey of recovery can continue on an ongoing basis by practicing this final EDIT™ principle. Our treatment team of EDIT™ Certified Counselors and EDIT™ Counselors is here to help! Get started on your journey of recovery today with a FREE consultation: 720-606-3242 Learn more about EDIT™ — http://positivepathways.com/eating-disorder-intuitive-therapy/ Schedule a FREE consultation — http://positivepathways.com/free-consultation/ Share this page with your...